Six months
A few blogs back I said that I thought my relationship with Carla was at a crossroads, and that we had some issues that were going to have to get worked out real soon if things were going to continue. That would have been about a month ago. Looking back, I'd say right around that time was the low point of our relationship so far, at least on my end.
We had been apart for about 2 months and I think that I was letting complacency creep in... I still really missed Carla and still thought about her all the time, but what I was really starting to miss was the intensity of how I used to feel about her... I don't know if I would have admitted it to myself back then, but our relationship had stopped being fun. We would have a few boring phone conversations in a row where we'd struggle to find anything to talk about, and I would start dreading the thought of what the shitty conversation might be indicitave of. I guess I still felt like Carla was the right girl for me and I kind of knew that the distance thing was what was hurting us, but simply realizing this wasn't enough to rekindle my excitement about our relationship.
So anyway, not long after I wrote that blog, some of our issues came to the surface in a fairly lengthy talk/argument that caused me to miss half of the New Pornographers show that I had been so excited about (but that's neither here nor there). We both cleared the air on some stuff (mostly communication issues; surprise, surprise), and although it was definitely one of our most heated arguments, I think that working some of those things out was pretty huge and since then our phone conversation has been a lot better.
Last week I went down to Dahlonega to stay with Carla for a few days, and I had an absolute blast with her. It was a nice reminder of how good things are with us when we're actually together. I think it was a much needed shot in the arm for us after not seeing each other for about a month.
For the first time in a little while, I feel really really good about our relationship. I've learned a lot in the last month about relationships, long distance relationships, logic vs. emotion, communication and expectations, women in general, Carla specifically, and myself, among other things. I never knew relationships would be so much work, but also I couldn't have imagined how incredible it feels to be loved by someone who you are also totally in love with.
In summation: I'm happy to be able to say that Carla and I are post-crossroads, doing better than ever. Things aren't perfect by any means, and there will still be exciting blogs about our issues when I feel like venting, but I do feel 100% better about our communication for when issues do arise. I miss the hell out of her, and I actually look forward to each time we're able to talk on the phone. We're coming up on six months together, which I guess typically is another big relationship crossroads, but I think we're in pretty good shape for this one.
We had been apart for about 2 months and I think that I was letting complacency creep in... I still really missed Carla and still thought about her all the time, but what I was really starting to miss was the intensity of how I used to feel about her... I don't know if I would have admitted it to myself back then, but our relationship had stopped being fun. We would have a few boring phone conversations in a row where we'd struggle to find anything to talk about, and I would start dreading the thought of what the shitty conversation might be indicitave of. I guess I still felt like Carla was the right girl for me and I kind of knew that the distance thing was what was hurting us, but simply realizing this wasn't enough to rekindle my excitement about our relationship.
So anyway, not long after I wrote that blog, some of our issues came to the surface in a fairly lengthy talk/argument that caused me to miss half of the New Pornographers show that I had been so excited about (but that's neither here nor there). We both cleared the air on some stuff (mostly communication issues; surprise, surprise), and although it was definitely one of our most heated arguments, I think that working some of those things out was pretty huge and since then our phone conversation has been a lot better.
Last week I went down to Dahlonega to stay with Carla for a few days, and I had an absolute blast with her. It was a nice reminder of how good things are with us when we're actually together. I think it was a much needed shot in the arm for us after not seeing each other for about a month.
For the first time in a little while, I feel really really good about our relationship. I've learned a lot in the last month about relationships, long distance relationships, logic vs. emotion, communication and expectations, women in general, Carla specifically, and myself, among other things. I never knew relationships would be so much work, but also I couldn't have imagined how incredible it feels to be loved by someone who you are also totally in love with.
In summation: I'm happy to be able to say that Carla and I are post-crossroads, doing better than ever. Things aren't perfect by any means, and there will still be exciting blogs about our issues when I feel like venting, but I do feel 100% better about our communication for when issues do arise. I miss the hell out of her, and I actually look forward to each time we're able to talk on the phone. We're coming up on six months together, which I guess typically is another big relationship crossroads, but I think we're in pretty good shape for this one.
posted by Matt @ 3:00 AM
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